Action Tips: Learn Disability Etiquette

People can get uncomfortable around people with disabilities because it’s unfamiliar, but the general premise “treat others how you would like to be treated” should still apply. Below are some tips to help you deal with the extra details that may come along with having a friend or classmate who's disabled.

Always ask

If you think a person with a disability needs help, ask them first before acting.

Be sensitive

It is okay to politely ask someone for details about an obvious disability, but recognize that it’s also okay for them not to want to talk about it.

Don't assume

Keep in mind that just because someone is in a wheelchair, it is not because they are sick or weak.

Remember

When you visit public places, like restaurants, malls, or the movies, check beforehand to see if the venue has handicap access. If not, ask the management to put in ramps, and put in Braille numbers on elevators and signs.

They're people too!

Invite friend with disabilities to your house for normal activities, like sleepovers or play dates.

Deaf does not equal blink

If an interpreter is helping you speak with a deaf person, make sure you talk to the deaf person, not the interpreter.

Just say so

Know that it's okay to ask people who have speech problems to repeat what they said if you didn't understand the first time.

Be considerate

Remember that it may take a person with a disability a little more time to get things done so let them set the pace when walking or talking.

Be patient

If you’re talking to a person with a speaking disability, give them your full unhurried attention. Don’t just jump in and try to speak for him or her.

Everyone's entitled to personal space

Don’t lean or hang on someone’s wheelchair when talking to them - wheelchairs are an extension of personal space.

The blind need guidance not pushing

If you’re helping someone with a vision disability, let the person take your arm so you are guiding them instead of pushing them or leading them, and always use specifics such as "left a hundred feet" or "right two yards".

They have a job to do

Never pet or play with Seeing Eye dogs. They can't be distracted from the job they are doing.

Chill out

And lastly, relax. Don't be embarrassed if you happen to use common expressions, such as "See you later" or "I've got to run", that seem to relate to the person's disability.