dear bubblegurl,
You aren't alone in facing the battle with cutting. i personally haven't found anything to help myself stop yet. I too use a rubber band... and it helps to an extent, but its not good enough. If you still need help or need someone to be there for support you can email me, we could help each other through it.

For that matter if anyone needs help, or needs someone to listen you can email me at

Know u are not alone in this, because there are many people feeling what you feel. Build a support group, and do healthy activites to help you stop, such as crafting, sports, writing, etc. Call out for help, and know we are with you. Don't think about it. Know we love you!

im a cutter..
and i stoped for a long while
untill i moved and didn't have any friends.
then i got a boyfriend
and he was a cutter too.
i hated it when he cutted.
so we made a deal.
if i dont cut then you dont cut.
and it seems to work.
i didn't like seeing my boyfriend hurt himself.
and im guessing he didnt like me hurting myself too.
i do cut when im in a horable mood or when somthing really really bad happens.
but maybe you need to find a deal with someone. it is easier to do with someone you love and you dont want them hurtting themselves too.

Dearest Bubblegurl. Did you start cutting before you were raped or after? If it was after, I'd say you're trying to control the pain through cutting. You're still causing harm to yourself, though. I'm actually grateful, though, that you're able to share it with a bunch of people to give you an opinion, but in order to get the pain off and out of you, you need to share with someone. Most likely, maybe(I'm no doc) once you share that info, you won't feel that pain and won't have the need for cutting anymore. When something traumatic like that happens you have sadness, anger, hate, and all the other emotions and without sharing it bottles up and our mind and body can only take so much emotional stress. If you can get those feeling off your chest, you'll be able to move on with your life in control and not have to cut to feel in control. PLEASE WRITE BACK!!!!!!!

I dont believe that religion should be used as a crutch either and your are right it is definitely an explanation for the soul... but i still think that if you think that a religion is right then it will make you feel good... so its not really a choice of whether its right over whether not it makes you feel good...

I think that some people are too focused on choosing a religion, just for the sake of having one. If people took time to explore different religions and practice them for a while before deciding to dedicate their life to it, it would be more common for people to have religions that are right and feel good.

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We learn correct, but disappointing things about the world every day. A huge fraction of America can't read...but we don't choose to disbelieve that fact.

I don't think religion should be used as a crutch to prop us up and make us feel good; I think it serves as an explanation for the soul. I think choosing something that feels good over something that's right is...well, terrible.

heroesdoexist07 Wrote:
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> Well, what if your religion made you feel
> terrible, but you thought it was factually
> correct? Shouldn't you pick that over a religion
> that is wrong but makes you feel all warm and
> fuzzy inside?

Very good point matt, but if you felt terrible in your religion but you thought it was right factually well thats just reasons for suicide right there... no but seriously you would feel trapped and you would feel wrong in your religion but then wouldnt you turn to your religion and hope that is "fixes" you and helps you see the light since you have already convinced yourself that is the right religion and then once you are "fixed" you would feel warm and fuzzy because your previous feelings are now bottled up somewhere... personally i rather pick the religion that makes me feel warm and fuzzy from the beginning.... because it makes me feel so good it must be right for me unless there is a terrible downside to the religion like cuttin my fingers off or something but then that wouldnt make me feel good so yeh...

i put the downside part in there b/c someone could say that drugs make them feel good so that makes it ok but they arent b/c of the whole withdrawl and the addiction that comes with most of them....

Religion isn't about facts. It's about faith. However, it is good to research, and not to pick one blindly. It's like walking into a pet store and picking the first dog you see. Sure, he may be cute, but he could also be vicious. Anyway, that's not the point. The point is, it's important to have a religion that fits you. I mean, if you can't believe in it, then it's not truly your faith. I believe in my faith, and it gives me what I need. I'm still researching. Just to learn about other religions. I don't pick one thing and decide I'm satisfied. There's no fun in that.

Well, what if your religion made you feel terrible, but you thought it was factually correct? Shouldn't you pick that over a religion that is wrong but makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside?

thats why i said you must believe in something thats right for you even if its not believing in God at all... i think that it is more important that you feel good in ur religion not oppressed or restricted from doing what you want...

Well, not in my case, at least. I don't follow a religion that promises forgiveness, or a peaceful and happy afterlife, or offers any sort of relieve in this life at all. However, I think that what I believe is correct, which is why I follow it.

On the other hand, you could find a religion that you both think is right AND offers you a lot of leniency and relief. I don't know...I was just wondering which you thought was more important.

wont a religion that you think is right make you feel good... i agree with Oh juliet on the point that not everything is for everyone... and you must find what works for you... not necessarily believing in God or a specific religion...

OhJuliet Wrote:
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> When you get a chance, research some religions to
> find one that works best for you.

Sorry to pick on you, but I feel I have to make a point. Do people agree or disagree with me here:

Is it more important to follow a religion that makes you feel good, or to find a religion that you feel is RIGHT?

I spent my Spring Break this year in the Children's Psych ward for the very same reason. A few weeks after I got out I was nearly hospitalized again for a third degree burn on the inside of my right calf. When my father found out that I did it myself he asked why. I said it was an expiriment, which it really was, to which he replied, "Put a gun to your head, pull the trigger and see what happens."
During my hospitalization, I realized I could not trust any of the staff there (one day I was sick and when I went to brush my teeth I took too long and was yelled at by a staff member), so I turned to God. With the white walls and endless halls ("Medicating" by Boys Night Out), it seemed He was the only one who could help.
When you get a chance, research some religions to find one that works best for you. http://www.religioustolerance.org/ is a great place to start your search.

I think that you need to talk to someone yg to think is going to listen to you and you want them to listen to you . I have a good relationship with my mom and that who I talk to or my best friend . And mabe try a martal art insted of cuting your slef. P.S You will stop cutting yourself when you want to . And try taking the ruber ban to the grabe.

Seriously, I know you're kind of talking here, but talk to someone in real life. A friend, anyone. You need to tell someobody about this. And with the cutting, think about how it affects the peopel around you that you care about. Just find some diferent way to take out your anger. Relax. Do something, just don't keep hurting yourself like this it's not worth it in the end. You have so much you could do with your life, don't throw it away. Good luck.

hey bubblegirl,
its not about the cutting and pain of the sharp object or the blood or anything its about whatever is happening inside of you.... something hurts and is painful inside of you.. its not like you cut yourself just becuase there is reason... maybe that you dont know about... but still a reason that is causing you to do this....
you need to tell someone about you getting raped, the pain you feel from that probably is the reason you cut yourself... did you start to cut after you were raped?

If you were raped why havent you told anyone like your parents or a best friend anyone you can trust. why you choose to tell us strangers people you do not know?

didn't it hurt???....y don't you find a sport to get involoved in or ...a hobbie like painting or talk with friends......DO SOMETHING!!!! find a quick way to take you off of thee pain you feel

because i didn't see blood when i flicked my self

the rubberband didn't work??

I guess i cut because I can control my pain well, its the only pain i can control (About 3mounths ago I was raped and i can't forget anything Iwas at a school dance and i walked to yhe store with my friends and out of7 people it only happened to me no one knows i've never told anyone not even my parents

I don't know how you're supposed to stop cutting, but maybe a good way to stop is to think about all that you have to live for. There are so many people around the globe who have nothing, and in the US you have the opportunity to go to school, even go to college and eventually become successful. Examine the reasons that you are cutting and figure out which ones you can change and which ones you just have to learn to live with. Best of luck. I sincerely hope you can beat this destructive behavior!!!

do you want to cut your self for it is not a good thing to do you can die from it and your mom and dad wouldn't want that now would they I am going to pray for you