Abusive Boyfriend
When I was 19 I was in college and doing great. Then I met this guy, he was sweet in the beginning. I didn't really care about college while I was with him. I failed out. I moved into his mother's house and we slept on an air mattress for a couple of months. He did coke and weed. When he was off coke he would threaten me if I ever left him. He would lock me out of his mothers house in the freezing cold. I was alone and scared. My family was in a different state and I was down here with this crazy guy. I couldn't tell my family because I was ashamed. He wouldn't let me wear make-up, I couldn't have any friends, I had to change my phone number for him so none of my friends could contact me. This one night he got drunk with his buddies and we were about to go home but he ripped the keys from my hand and drove. He drove me to a dirt road and told me to get out and walk home. It was dark and I didn't know where I was. I got out and he drove off. I started walking and I heard my car come back. He drove full speed ahead towards me. He stopped the car as he got 2 inches from me I was bawling at that point. We got home that night and he sweet talked to me and I forgave him. There are so many stories that I could tell, but it would be such a long note. He got himself sent to prison for doing a stupid thing and that's when I left. Now I'm at my mom's house and about to go back to school.
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Wow! I am so sorry to hear that all of this had happened to you! That is not right at all! He deserves to be put in prison for the rest of his life. How long is his time for?
I think for your protection, you should change your name. Going back to your mom's house and trying to move on will (sorry to say) not help that much. I know from stories in my family, that a guy who has nothing to do in prison, will think of you all the time. And he will probably NEVER forget your name. (that's the sad thing about people like him). You're on their mind all the time!
I hope that you stay safe, and if he tries to come back at you when he gets out, to take action. Stand up for yourself! I know you can be strong!
I've been there before with an ex. Only thing is that he never tried to push me aside and leave me stranded in the middle of nowhere. He was too clingy to ever let that happen, and it was hard to escape him.
Guys like that prey over girls like that. They know that they have nowhere to go and is so far away from home, and feel that they have control over you and could do whatever they feel like to you, because they know in the end that you would end up coming back to them.
I had a hard time leaving my ex. It took me a year to break up with him. I was too afraid to hurt him, but I wasn't happy. I didn't like who he was. After I moved away, thats when I got the courage to break it off with him. But he still tried to manipulate me, tell me he's changed, and say all these things to me. But I kept on going. It took me a whole year to get over him...and I'm trying to get over him now.
Its just a lesson learn and to never be anyone's victim. The only person that can help you, is you. And you helped yourself and got out of it. I'm glad that you're back in school and that you got away from this guy. He totally deserves what hes getting now.
well, my best friend is in a relationship like that. and he threatens her so bad. and she has no live anymore she cant have guy friends. he calls her horrible names and blames every on her he has her conviced that no other guy would want her, i try to help her but it seems like the more i try to help the worse he makes things for her. so what should i do?
Wow your seriously an inspiration :). You went through all of that and got back up. I applaud you, I'm glad you left him. Being in a relationship like that isn't worth it.
I want to start off by saying that I am really happy for you that you can accept al the traumatic things that have happened and pu them behind you and go back to school. Not many people would do that. I also agree with the fact that you should get ur name changed and possibly move to a new state.
Hey HaleyC! please click this link below:
http://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/hotlines
This is Dosomething's page with several hotlines and phone numbers to places that can help you help your friend.
Please tell you parents and try to have them help you reach your friends parents. These hotlines will also have the proper advice and can provide the next steps to take.