How we look or feel about ourselves
Submitted by Tweety2000 on Tue, 08/12/2008 - 02:47
Hey. So at times don't we just feel like we are too fat or getting too fat. Sometimes, i know i do. So i decided to start this so that we can talk about why we feel this way or ways we can help other people. So if you have any insight or suggestions write them here. :)
It not always just about being fat, there's other things people worry about. But I think that the reason we sometimes feel this way is because of some psychological need to be as close to perfect as possible. That's a big problem these days. So to help the people who are feeling self-consious about themselves, they need to hear lots of reasoning that they are fine and don't need to worry about image, and I think that friends are the perfect people to help.
I agree with that, but sometimes if we tell people that there okay they still don't believe it and end up starving themselves or something like that. Also, i agree that it's not always about being fat but most of the time it is. And yes, we should keep trying to tell them that even though they don't believe it themselves.
I think having a good support network is the key to feeling good about yourself, so no matter where you look, there will always be someone there to make you feel beautiful.
Well I can agree on that. Like about 5 months ago I use to think that I was fat and ugly and I would always be putting myself down. Until cheer leading tryouts came up, I made it. But I thought that I was too fat for it so I went on a starvation diet. I hardly ate, and the times that I did I threw it up. I was never hyper I would always be bummy. I even fainted on a day that I had to perform. I didn't tell anyone about this until my best friend got it out of me. She went to the guidance and then everything happened. But long story short I lost like about 20 pounds, and I learned form my mistake. And as for the people who think there nothing, you should look at your self in the mirror and say "I am beautiful". And say it like you mean it. =D
i think that if somebody wants to be down on themselves, they will always find something that they don't like- even if it seems absurd to us. maybe we should all go on a personal campaign to find the things that we LIKE the most about ourselves and then maybe it will be easier to find things we like about other people and we can improve our environments all around.
i think that if somebody wants to be down on themselves, they will always find something that they don't like- even if it seems absurd to us. maybe we should all go on a personal campaign to find the things that we LIKE the most about ourselves and then maybe it will be easier to find things we like about other people and we can improve our environments all around.
You all should check out this video called Killing Us Softly 3 Advertising's Image of Women by Jean Kilbourne. It is about how advertisements use devaluing of women. It goes on to discuss how the negative images and messages that are promoted affect women and girls. Yes, at the end of the day the individual has to make a choice and decide what makes her (or even him) beautiful, but there are a lot of factors that contribute to how women and girls feels about themselves. You can easily find the video on Google Video if you highlight and paste the whole title listed above or paste this website (http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-1993368502337678412). The entire video is 34 minutes. You can also check your school or local libraries, video stores, etc. It's very enlightening.
Wow, this is a perfect discussion for me. I have recently started a progrom called Campaign_4_Confidence that aims at doing the very thing you are all talking about; setting up a support network of young women who act as possitive, confident role models for girls with poor self esteem. I am also looking forward to publicly speaking to highschools, churches, etc, and not only educating girls about eating disorders and body image issues as most schools already do, but getting down to the core problems like media, socail injustices, stereotypes, sexism, etc, that all contribute to an overall feeling of low self worth amongst the young women of our nation. I hope that If we can help girls realize their potential and worth, a worth that is dire for the fuction of society, than we can combat the problem. We are all wonderful individuals with purpose and impact on the world, we are beautiful, and we can do anything we want to, it is sad most young women dont believe this. I feel that if we work together, we can tackle this poisin infiltrating our society.
I compete in beauty pageants & my platofrm in called The Inner Beauty Revolution. It's all ab telling girls that "our imperfections do not exist to tell us we aren't good enough, but to remind us that we are unique" (thats my motto!). I want to start an organization that will revolutionize & recreate the way people see beauty, one girl at a time, every girl eventually! Every Girl is beautiful, Every Girl tells a story! :)
i know i can definetley lose some weight i listened to my dad stepmom and her two kids who are both a year younger than me tell me i am fat and at one point my ex-step-mom told me i will always be a virgin because NO ONE WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH A PIG. It hurt me pretty bad to heatr her say that to me. I have never been in a good relationship with someone who actually cares. For the longest time i believed what my step mom said and my dad told me that i am good when i am laying on my back in a guys bed that is when i realized i couldnt take it so i packed my stuff and told them i wanted to live with my mom and after they said no a week later they divorced. Now i do live with my mom. I am beginning to gain back some confidence surely but slowly every one is beautiful i am so ashamed it took me this long to real;ize it
It is so hard to feel semi ok with the way you look when everything around us telling us be thin and that is the only way to be confident and beautiful and get guys. I struggle with this on a daily basis and cant seem to stop. It is why there are so many crash diets out there. I completely admit I am a crash dieter. starving and overeating were my ways.
I feel this way becuz its acertain expectation in my family. i feel this way becuz kids make fun of me for being short and not "thick". i feel this way becuz i dont look like my sisters. (tall, long hair and light skinned). i feel this way becuz im black.
i feel this way becuz of the media.
why ppl feel fat about themselves is cuz the media sets a standard and evry1 follows all the twig models u c on tv have been made up to an awful extent. sometimes they even mix & match the bodies and faces of 2 different models it's sick. hope i helped :)
Fat no longer means something a about my body. When I start telling myself that I'm fat or ugly, I have to take a step back and look at the circumstances tha tare making me feel that way.
When I say fat there is always something else that is actually bothering me.
im only 14 but im gonna try to explain this as best i can: alot of adults think that either there is nothing going on or that what is going on is just useless drama. hardly ever are they right. there is almost always some kind of trouble brewing in a group of friends and to adults it is just useless drama but to us its life altering/ending stuff that is sometimes too hard to handle. i know from experience that us teenagers don't always handle things the right way. i handled my body/friend/family issues by locking myself in a bathroom stall and cutting my wrists with a peice of sharp plastic. my best friends sis told our principal who in turn told my parents. i went to counciling and am better now. but what i'm trying to say is that even though to adults we are just worrying over useless drama and insecurities, to us we are trying to handle problems that are WAY to big for us to handle. and all we ever want is for one of you adults to just sit down, ask us what's wrong, and listen without interupting and judging and TRY to understand what we are telling you!!!!
Since I am currently in recovery for an eating disorder I can honestly say "its much easier said then done." It is so hard to get those negative thoughts out of your head with the more positive and accepting ones. I want to empower girls to feel confident in their bodies no matter what size or shape they are even if I am not confident with my own. I want no one to have to go through what I am dealing with because people are worth so much more then this!
Eat healthy and exercise moderately. That is my advice to feeling good about yourself. This is where I ideally would like to end up.
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People are different; shapes and sizes. So WHAT she's 20 pounds skinnier, You are yourslef don't worry about others. I believe wveryine is beaurtiful in their own way :D