I need advice
Submitted by obssesedbygreys on Wed, 04/15/2009 - 21:09
My ex will not leave me alone. Always commenting on how I look, and what I am doing. He tells everyone that I am crazy, idiotic and a lesbian. Just when I began loosing hope, he started tripping me and smaking my butt, with random objects. I have told him to stop but it seems like its impossible, any adivce on what to do?
Change your cell phone number and find a place where he can't find you for a while. Like a friends house or something. If that doesn't work get a restraining order on him.
i think you should tell a trusted guardian. and maybe take legal action for sexual harrassment
That is not right of him to be doing that stuff to you. You should go to the cops and get a restraining order on him for sure! You are trying to move on with your life, and he is not letting you. He has no right to touch you that way. That's harrassment! Hope the problem stops.
I have gone through the same situation almost. My ex always hugs me and tries to kiss me again but only when we are alone. Over the summer even when I had a boyfriend, my ex would smack my butt and try to sweet talk me. He tried telling me that my boyfriend was no good and that he was the only guy that would ever really care about me. Once the school year came around, he didn't talk to me that much but he was always around two of my close friends.
My advice is to tell him to leave you alone. Tell him that you don't want him to do that to you. Tell him that if he doesn't leave you alone then you are going to get your parents involved and maybe even the police. That should make him stop. Good Luck!
I had that same problem with my ex. He never left me alone, and always had to compliment me on everything. Then things started to get out of hand when he start wanting to come over to where I lived. His brother lived up the block from me and he would make excuses to come where I live just so he can see me. After him not being able to see me those times he came around where I lived, he finally stop coming around and wrote me a message saying "I wont be around where you live at no time soon"...I just laughed and said so. I wasn't even trying to see him, I don't know why he was trying to see me for.
But anyway. You need to tell him off. Go someone like a teacher and tell. The more you let him do it, the more he thinks he has power to do what he wants to you. He'll back down once you show him.
You need to tell someone. Anyone who will listen. That under law is classified as sexual harassment. Tell someone, anyone who will listen. I know how hard it is.
My Advice is to tell a trusted Guardian a freind or your school counselor, Because you dont want it to get anymore out of hand then it already is, Soon he could start doing other stuff and you might get hurt or even worse if it dosn't stop then you need to take legal action and file Sexual Harrassment or get a restrainig order on him. Kirsten! :)
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you need to stand up for your self,tell him to STOP and if if dosen't tell someone cuz that is sexual herasment. so tell some one
Tell him that if he does not stop you will call the police