Middle School
Submitted by haley@desiretoi... on Fri, 01/23/2009 - 12:56
Middle School is hard especially for girls. So girls: What are some experiences you had in middle school?
How did you handle tough times?
What do you wish you would have had to help you through this sometimes awkward time?
well im going to middle school next year and the one thing that im woried about is the boys. but i know that my friends will be there. oh wait most of my friends are boys. all well.
I am 13, I am in Middle School. I weight over 200 pounds and most guys weigh less then that. I have to handle being picked on. Just last week, first week of school, I got called fat. I like guys, they just dont like me. I have a boyfriend, his name is M.H. and we have never gone on a date, held hands, kissed, or anything. I have my teachers , then ones who care, and friends to help me through these hard times. And I will make it, again. I have to. Middles Schoolers like me, dont die for them, show them we are better then that.
I just graduated from middle school and I loved it so much that I am planning on becoming a middle school counselor one day!!! These are my 5 steps on how to have a great time in middle school.......
1. GET INVOLVED!!!! Do things that you like to do whether it be Student Council (which I was and still am VERY involved in), sports, the arts(you know acting, writing, music), tutoring, or something else (maybe a DOSOMETHING club :)) you will meet so many new people and feel like an important part of the school if you get involved.
2. TALK TO PEOPLE!!! You know that student who sits next to you in language arts that you think seems really nice but you are too nervous to talk to? GO FOR IT!!! That is the quickest and easiest way to meet people. Just talk and concentrate on making others feel good about themselves and not about yourself. (In other words, talk to them and care and not always about yourself and complaining.) Chances are that you will make a lot of new friends or atleast gain the respect of the people in your classes. And do not just rule people out by appearence. Be friendly.:)
3. DON'T ALWAYS WORRY ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK!!! I read this in a magazine, I think that Demi Lovato said it, Just smile and be confident. People are going to look at your smile and confidence and not at your clothes and if you are having a bad hair day or not.
4. YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP ALL THE TIME!!! Just because you are older now does not mean that you have to have a date to every dance or a boyfriend/girlfriend all the time. In some cases yes, people can meet each other in Middle School and fall in love and live happily ever after, but just keep everything in perspective. Do not just be in a relationship just to be in one. You will be much happier because of this.
5. USE YOUR HEAD AND FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!! If something seems wrong or stupid to you, then don't do it just because you want to fit in. Be a leader!!!! And most importantly, follow your heart. Do what you want to do and not what seems "cool" or whatever. Be yourself, because EVERYONE is pretty amazing!!!! Also, do not take things that happen to seriously, if you trip and fall in front of everyone or get tounge tied during a speech, don't sweat it. Everyone gets embarressed, just remember that it could have been worse and learn to laugh at what happens and let it go. <3
I kinda feel like I am talking to one of the 6th graders that I helped out this year while I am typing this! (I'm not trying to make it seem like I'm all superior and stuff because I have been through this, I hope that you do not think that) I want you to know that I love you, because I know that sometimes in Middle School and in all points in life it can seem like no one understands or loves you. Jesus loves you, so saying a prayer helps too! :) If ANYONE needs help with middle school advice, then just post something in Education with my username on it and I will be more then happy to help!!!! <3
Well when i was in middle school it was kinda hard in the 6th grade. I got picked on because of my hair. it really short then. so all the guys always picked on me or was saying something totally disgusting about my siser(she's really pretty so all the little 6th graders wanted her, she was in 8th grade then), but i was so shy and insecure then i just cried and let them get to me. you cant worry about that. know who you are and let bullies know that they cant bring you down.
In the 7th grade, well i changed. i started standing up for myself. I let people know that they cant talk garbage to me. But i wasnt rude about it, i just told them to back off. But know that i think about it, i think i built a wall, ya know. i never shared any of my inner secrets cuz most of my "friends" just didnt get me!
8th grade was my best year. i dont know what happened but my confidence level just shot through the sky. i was like known as the class clown i guess. i let people see my fun side and i got lots of respect from people. everybody wanted me around.
*when u get to high school some people may change, just dont get caught in the wrong crowd. middle school friends and i grew apart. i always thought it was me. i have bit problem with feeling accepted. but i had to stop myself from doing something i may regret. never change who u are to be socially accepted.
A really good book to read, is "A smart girls guide to middle school" by the American Girl company. It has a lot of great tips that put you on the road to success.
I am in middle school now and I am having a great time. A lot of my friends are having some hard times though. If I was a little less self conscious in 6th grade it would have saved me some awkward times in later 6th grade. The only really awkward part of Middle school so far is at Bat mitzvah because it so socially pressuring.
iom not in middle school but what i can say for those who are in jr.high.
1. ladies please keep in mind your education will follow you through the rest of your life. Dont let your teachers or boys bring you down or distract you from being strong and successful beacuse we really need you young ladies to sticka round become role models for other young ladies like yoursleves especially when you hit the top of you dreams.
2. fellas keep your head high be all you can be ont let the outside activities by that i mean all the negativity that may go on hat others may influence is right but really wrong. but just like the young ladies we need our young an strong gentlemen too. be wise make the right decsion the ladies are going to be an so is yor life.
"MIDDLE SCHOOL IS IMPORTANT TO PASS BE WISE"
FROM DEMAREA
So here's the thing: Middle School is three short years and doesn't define who you are. Striving to be popular will lead you to having fake friends who could potentially ditch you in High School. Make friends with people you want to hang out with and experiment with who you are. Try new sports and join different clubs. Learn as much as you can about yourself so high school can be easier. Make friends with people who have common interests.
Most of all, enjoy, Middle school is fun and after Middle school you get treated more like an adult. School should be a comfortable environment. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in. Be fearless.
When I was in middle school, I got glasses. Now, I had already had braces so that made me the girl with glasses and braces. Of course, I got made fun of. People who I thought were my friends had said some pretty mean stuff to me and a lot of older kids who were grades older than me would always look and say stuff about me. It really made me have low self esteem and it made me feel bad about myself. But, I learned that the people who didn't make fun of me were my true friends after all. Now, I'm going into high school. And there will be many people in my high school. So, as a freshman I'm sure I'll get made fun of again. But the difference in high school than middle school is that I could really care less about what people think of me. I spent way too much time and tears worrying about what people thought of me.
I am starting middle school 3 days from now and im kinda nervous and kinda excited. Any advice?
um im starting middle school and i read your comment and it really helped me
thankyou so much!
I'm in the Middle School early because our district doesn't have enough money to keep the Elementary School open so everyone had to move. 4th-7th is in the Middle School... I'm an A student, and I get TONS of appreciation from my Teachers and my Peers. I'll use my username to fill in my name. These are some of the comments I might receive..."Magic8Ball is a walking dictionary!" Or "Of coarse you knew that Magic8Ball!" Most of the time, The comments make me feel good. Sometimes they make me feel weird. Just keep going and trust your gut girls!
I have a story to tell about middle school and I hope no one has to go through what me and my friend did.
There were too boys in my class james and josh who were friends with me and paige, my best friend. James got on our nerves and as I remember he was kinda crazy.
One day me and Paige were teasing the boys about something, then James said "I know where you guys live, I'll come to your house and get you!" and we took it jokingly as that was just how he was. He had always said things that were wierd and that wasn't any different.
Then he says something about getting a gun and coming to get us. I thought that was wierder. but we brushed it off. and laughed and he did too. ....
Josh said "hey my dad has a gun in his closet." and James said "I dare you to bring it to school tommorow." Josh of course said no. Then James said, "If you bring it tommorow I will give you two new video games." Josh said "okay"
Me and my friend Paige didn't think anything of it until the next day, when josh said he had an air pellet gun in his bag. He showed it to us. We were like wow he really brought it. But since they didn't get it out of the bag, all they did was look at it. Then James gave Josh the video games.
We left school and I rode with Paige and her mom, they dropped me off at my house. Then Paige called a few minutes later, saying she had let it slip to her mom about the gun. And her mom was coming to pick me up so we could go to the school and tell the principal. She kinda chewed us out for not telling them as soon as we saw it.
Anyways, the two boys ended up in a lot of trouble. James got suspended for the rest of the year. He didn't come back to the school until after the next school year tho. Josh, the one who brought the gun, was in even more trouble. He got sent to juvy I believe.
I felt bad about it at first. But soon after they were gone, I realized I should've said something as soon as I saw it, What if he was serious about killing us? I was a follower at the time and wanted to make everyone happy and I'm so glad my friend let it slip to her mom. Otherwise we would've not learned this lesson.
I saw them a few years down the road, and I was afraid to talk to them at first because I figured they'd hate me. But eventually I got the nerve to talk to Josh and he said its no big deal. Its all over and done with now.
James on the other hand I never could bring myself to talk to. Everytime I saw him all I could think of was when he said he knew where I lived and would come and get me.
Again, I hope and pray this or anything worse, EVER happens to any of you. but jus remember to trust yourself and your instincts. Don't do something just to make everyone happy. Make yourself happy!!!
P.S. I had a great middle school expierence besides this. It happened and I learned my lesson, that is what life is about.
I'm 12 years old and in seventh grade. I have a southern accent and I'm on teeth west coast, I'm a lesbian, and I have freckles. I get picked on a lot and most of my friends have ditched me. I'm outcasted and it's pretty hard on me. I'm developign depression and i harm myself. My parents aren't so supportive either. But reading some of these comments gave me hope to go on. Thanks guys.
i think middle school is the first time we really experience the hardships of being the odd one out. Those three years were especially hard for me because i can from a small school. At my elementary school, there were only two people in my sixth grade class, including me. I didn't know any famous actors, bands, or fashions. Throughout middle school, i wasn't really sure of who was my friend and who wasn't. I was a floater and that's one of the hardest things about middle school.
If you want to have a good time, just be sure of who your friends are because if you have someone who cares about you, you're set.
Okay can u guys help me with something? Im doing this project for school and im wondering if u could answer these questions...
What r some struggles for middle school girls?
and What r some ways to solve thoses struggles?
Thx!
I am now a sophomore in high school and honestly middle school is the best time of your life! The only major difference between elementary and middle school is having more teachers and not being with the same people. The material does get more challenging but with focus you will do fine! I wish I knew what was going to happen before it happened! But we all know thats not possible so you just have to roll with the punches and enjoy your middle school years. Hope this helps!
-samantha.zientek