My story
I am now 15. Last year i was in a relationship with this guy we will call him James who was 17 at the time. Well in the beginning we started out great no fighting or verbal abuse. Well we were together for about 4 and a half months and that is when things began to go down hill. James told me I was not allowed to hang out with my friends at all, and that is when we started staying home and only hanging out with his or mine family, or his friends only. Well after about two weeks of that he got kicked out of his grandparents house and my parents let him move into my house and was told to sleep down stairs in the living room alone. Both my parents left for work early in the morning, and one morning he had came up in to my room after they had left and i was still asleep. He woke me up by laying on top of me and raping me, i tried to push him off but it didn't work then i managed to bite him til he started to bleed and he moved so i fell of my bed he had me by my wrist so when i fell it messed my wrist up pretty bad still to this day it hurts if i bend it wrong. He had told me if i told anyone he would hurt me really bad, it scared me so bad that i was afraid to break up with him or tell my best guy friend who i had known since 1st grade or my sister and he fiance. So my stupid self stayed with him and he began to start hitting me for no apperent reason one day i had took my little brother {12 years old} to the park down the street and my brother ran home quick to grab a drink well while he was gone james and i began to fight because my best guy friend had texted me asking me if i want to go to his house for a pool party and james had looked at it and flipped on me he began to grab me and push me against the shed at the park. when i tried to pull away he slapped me in the face and pushed himself up against me and tried to kiss me i then got my arm released from him and managed to punch him in the face and run.it was a good thing i love to go running because i managed to run all the way to my house with out him catching me. I grabbed his stuff and threw it out of my front door all over the front lawn and locked my door. I grabbed my house phone and called my best guy friend and told him about what had just happened except him raping me. it is now a year later and my and my best guy friend are going out and i have all my friends back and my boy friend brian {best friend} knows the rape thing and wants to kill him. my life is getting much better!
i hope everything works out better now.
Guys can't be really controlling sometimes, I mean at first they don't show any sign of danger they're all sweet and kind but then they turn for the worst. I've never had to deal with something like that, but I did have to deal with verbal abuse last year by a guy who cheated on me with my best friend. I am no longer with him and I'm happier without him. I moved on and am now with a wonderful guy for not 5 months. I love him very much and I just hope he doesn't prove me wrong. Your a strong person for getting through all of that, and I think your truly an inspiration :) _ love alwaysz Gigglyheart♥
Hey Gigglyheart♥ thank you so much! I never thought i would ever get out of that situation. None of my family even knows and my boy friend keeps asking me to tell someone in my family i have told only 2 people other than my boy friend. And one was my god brother who says if he ever sees him walking down the street him and all his friends will be there kicking his ass.But really being told i am an inspiration is like the best thing i have heard in a very long time. I hope you and your boy friend turn out great and that he wont prove you wrong.
Good luck
Sillygirl!
wats good hey not all guys are like that i mean let me try to clear this up see when its the first time for a dude to fall in love with someone the dude is so devoted and loyal and will do anything for the gurl but months go by and something seems wrong to him because she starts acting difforant tords him so skip a few details he finnaly finds out wat going on shes cheating on him ok now he is heart broken so he was able to trust someone easly befor but hey not no more so they break up new relationship same dude some other gurl it starts off good days or even months go by and he sees the same things going on but he dont know for sure so to prevent it from happening again the dude gos crazy and keeps her from her family keeps her from her friends checks her voicemails, emails ,myspaces ,befor she can so he will know she is not lieing. its hard to understand why a dude will treat a gurl like that its hard for him to trust you but if you aint willing to show him everyday that its ok to trust you then he wont never be able to trust ever again but dont leave him if a dude starts doing that just help him show him that you can be trusted and im telling you it will get better and he will change you want to no how i no this because im the dude who been in that for three years untill someone showed me it was ok to trust again..... but i never been that dude who abused a woman
I am sooo happy u r doing better and thanxx for sharing your story.
Its good that you are doing better.
wats good Thankz
I hope u don't see him again and that is good u broke up with him and also is good that you have a friend that would help u
Im new to this thing but I read your story and wow!
Thats HORRIBLE!
and that ungrateful ugh son of a gun!
Your family lets him stay with you and he abusses you!
I could say so much things right now
it makes me so mad when i hear things like that.
Why didnt you press charges?
Im glad to hear your doing fine now.
But thats horrible.
Do your parents know?
Well best of luck, and hopefully he never returns!
wow wat an over powering storyone of my friends got raped by an older guy also she is 14 he was 18 it makes me sick to see this stuff happen to kids who deserve much more and can tell u do, ur best guy friends seemd like a really good guy. we (the girls) need to help other girls not get into the situation. this has never happend to me but all the storys make me feel like i was there
I can't believe you stayed with him after he raped you! what an asshole! You should have defended yourself. I hope everything goes well with you. And good luck later on in life. Just forget your past okay?
WOW...THATS CRAZY AND IM SO SORRY TO HEAR THAT BUT IM SO HAPPY THAT U GOT RID OF THAT GOOFY BOY AND MOVED ON WIT YO LIFE..(U GET ALL APPLAUSE)
I know you're not going to be able to get over this. The best thing you can do is not hold onto it and put it in your past. What he did to you was horrible and I feel your pain. I was raped as a child and it's the worst thing most people could imagine. But there's worse. The worst thing is letting it affect the rest of your life. Take it as an experience that's made you stronger and let it go. Have fun with your new boyfriend and be happy that you had people you could tell. I didn't tell anyone at all for twelve years and my fiancee knows now and he's the most supportive person in the whole situation. Good job with getting rid of the asshole and I hope you can get past this. You go, girl!
I'm going to be 13, and i think your story is....... i don't even have words. I can't even imagine how someone could rape a person. I'm just glad you got away. If you had stayed with him, one day he could've possibly have killed you. But no, you got rid of that (excuse my language) bastard, and moved on with your life. Did you ever call the cops on him? He could go to jail... just sayin... But, you are an inspiration to me. I know this incident may be hard to get over, but if you ever need to talk to someone, i'm here. i'll listen to you whenever you wanna talk. I may not be the person you wanna talk to , but remember, i'm always here...
You are really strong SillyGirl, I am so happy that you are happy and trying to forget the past. The same thing happened to me, but I wasn't strong enough to get out untill after two years. But you are something, and Gigglyheart01850 was right, you truly are an inspiration :>