Racism- Please share
Unfortunately, I've encountered my fair share of racial slurs, discrimination, etc., and I know its something far from fun. For the most part I am pretty mature when I come across racist people, but I admit: I've had moments when my anger was bigger than my need to be civil. And yes, I've fought, argued, etc., over it. I can't say that being discriminated against puts me down, in a way it actually encourages me to be a little better everyday. Maybe it's my sense of rebellion, or something else, needless to say...I fight racial discrimination.
I would love some tips on dealing with racist people, I know there's always a better way to deal with certain situations. Anyone have any suggestions? Or anyone care to share their stories??
FYI: I am Mexican, not Hispanic, I was actually born in Mexico. I don't "look" Mexican most of the time, but my "chicana" accent gives me away. hehe. Not to mention the habit of speaking "spanglish"...
I understand what you are going threw. Since I am in a relationship with an African-American and we have a son together it seems that people look at us differently. It's not just one group of people but people from all different races. If we go into a store together people stare and watch us like we are going to steal something. It just gets on your nerves and I have started to really notice it lately. But it makes us a stronger couple because it is something that we are going threw together. I just hope that the world gets over the racism and our son and others won't have to go threw this stuff.
In grade school I was chubby and not very masculine. People called me gay even though I'm straight. One time a kid kicked me in my testicles and I had to go to the nurse. Over the years, if anyone ever got to me, I'd get inside their head and try to distract them. If someone called me a jerk(or probably a more severe insult), I'd say something like "Eventually you'll die, then it won't matter." Walk away and never speak to them again. Days later, if they still provoked me, I'd use signs. Smile and nod, wink, scratch the under-part of your chin, but in a subtle way that resembles the italian mafia "screw you" symbol. The one that usually worked was halfway through their rant, i'd laugh, sigh, slightly tilt my head with a pitiful look on my face, and shake it. You might want to practice in the mirror first.
I should've made my username "no pity."
I especially have no pity for "chicanas" or "chicanos" when I spent four years of high school in LA putting up with names like "Corn bread" and "corn flake." I've never had problems with Hondurans, Cubans, Colombians, Guatemalans, Panamanians, or any of the other latin countries, only Mexicans. At some point people (read Mexicans) have to realize that when everyone hates you it's because you're an ass.
BTW, I'm not a racist, I believe you are entitled to every right I am, but that doesn't mean I have to like you. A bigot, yeah I'm probably that.
its true that you don't have to like that person but actually give that person the respect that they deserve... especially when that person has done nothing to you.
talking to that person seems like the best way but sometimes you just gotta make that person look like an idiot by saying something like, "who are you to judge me!?" or just raise a quizzical eyebrow.
Yeah, I know when I was little I was bugged on much in my last names, because the are in Chinese and on my eyes. But as time has passed by people have started to see we are all the same and that without us the immigrants who work really hard the countries wouldn't even be a third of what they are.
I also remember when I was little I had a black classmate, and then a new black girl came and I was curious, how would she act? I thought to myself, but that wasn't racism, because I already had a black classmate, just kids curiosity :)
Anyways in how to deal with it, the people who is racial are just pathetic, because they think they are so much more, when they can't see they are being so low. Just laugh at them or turn around before they can even get to talk to you. Also you could say "If you have nothing good to say, keep it to yourself".
I am 16 year old puerto rican girl with a Cambodian boyfriend. I've been with him since 1/19/09 and my dad hates the fact that he's cambodian. My family loves him though. If I get married to him and have kids I don't want people pointing and making dumb race comments about us and our kids. People are just plain ignorant sometimes, you can't change how people are.
I think the comments are becomming more accepting. Different races makes more jokes about it and most of the time the race that has been made fun of laughes to. The word that really gets on my nerves is NIGGA..
an I hate it when the blacks that say it get made when whites say it. I asked someone what was the difference between saying nigga and negro. He said Negro is more racist and nigga is like saying homie. So if whites are not using as a racial slur, Why do blacks get so mad?
Im not going to say that I dont descriminate towards anyone because then that would be a lie, but what I can say is that I try not to everyday because I believe that is unethical.
decriminating towards your own or another race is not ok.. it's a hate crime.
I hang around a group of friends who are not racist but just like everyone else they say racial slurs.. i hate it and always complain to them to tell them to stop..
It's funny cuz me and my entire family have talked about the racial slurs and have came to the conclusion that we will try to resist from saying the word "nigga." it's a horrible word and is also racial.. sometimes it does slip and I have to catch myself.. but really all it is, is mind over matter! you can do it.. anyone can.. just be patient
FYi: I am also Mexican as well, but I do consider myself Latina and Hispanic.
Although many of us experience racism in different ways and are subject to stereotype, America is becoming more and more diverse and times may be changing. Regardless you can not expect people to treat you the way you want to be treated unless you treat them them the way you want to be treated. Sure, there will always be that ignorant person, but if you allow people to get to know you and kill them with kindness, they are usually more apt to overcome their original thoughts on you. You should be the better person and be a role model for others and help close this gap. You do not achieve much by being rude back, since that will only add to their original assumption or opinion of you. Showing them the true you and ignoring their comments lets you continue on and let them see they're wrong. Most of all, keep your pride and dignity and be an example for the next generation.
I have been dealing with racial matters all my life. My parents are sperated and have been since I was 2. They taught me very diferntly. My mom taught me not to see color and my dad, well lets just say he was quite the oppisite. As I got older I was just like my mom. It didn't matter to me if you was purple, if you was nice to me I was nice to you. I got into many fights with my dad over the issue and they got really heated at times. Over the years he has gotten better, alot better and I like to think its because of me, plus he has a mixed granddaughter. From my experinces I can honestly say that racisim is igronant and it has alot to do with the way people were raised. Try to fight the igroance with knowledge. Thats what I tried to do and it seems to have settled my dad down with all his racisim.
I go to a mostly white school, and you won't believe the racism that goes one. One kid was excalty put in jail for reacting to being called by a racial slur. Iam not racist at all and I don't blame the opposite race for a groups of people arrogance. There was this one incident where I was gonna date this guy, but it didnt work out. I am black and he was white, and I knew that it was going to be a problem especially for my school. They called us both all types of names and would say is your race not good enough for you? I was willing to fight for it, but I guess it was too much for him to handle so it was over before it began. It's scary to me that it's almost 2010 and this type of stuff still goes on, why can't people let it go
I think the bets way to deal with racism is to know that people who judge you on your appearance and heritage are just ignorant. I'm not saying ignore them I think you should change their view of thinking, at the same time it might not be worth it. Its up to you.
Sometimes it can be hard to change a persons point of veiw especially those who are ignorant. I think the best thing is to ignore because soem people can never change the way they think. Never let racist comments get you down, keep your head up and be proud of your heritage.
Sometimes it can be hard to change a persons point of veiw especially those who are ignorant. I think the best thing is to ignore because soem people can never change the way they think. Never let racist comments get you down, keep your head up and be proud of your heritage.