Sexting
After reading some of the other entries under HIV&Sexuality I thought maybe my situation wasn't important enough to talk about compared to the other ones. But i rethought that and realized people should be aware that sexting isnt right, so here's my story. I'm 13 and I was dating this guy, we'll call him Daniel. So I started liking Daniel and after a week or so he asked me out and I was thrilled. For the first month it was heaven, he was the perfect boyfriend and everything was perfect. After about a month of dating he started asking about having sex and sending naked pictures to him. Of course I said no, I had never had a guy ask me that before and I would never dream of doing that. Daniel kept bugging me and bugging me and finally after about a month and a half of pestering I finally gave in and sent pictures of myself naked to him to get him to stop bugging me. The only person I told was my best friend, lets call her Shelly. About a month later me and Daniel broke up and me and Shelly got in a fight becuase he went out with her. Shelly told everyone in the grade about the picture I had sent him and he sent me. People's parents found out about it and then my parents did along with the police. The police came to my house and I had to give up my phone and go down to the police station with them. I was there for around 2 1/2 hours filling out a statement about what happened between me and Daniel since we started going out to when we broke up and when people found out about the pictures. School was terrible, some of my best friends wouldn't speak to me and everyone talked about me and called me a whore. I came home crying and saying that I wanted to move and change schools but my parents and some of my good friends helped me through it. Luckily the police decided not to press charges against me and Daniel for sending and possesing child poronogrophy and we wouldn't be registered as sex offenders. I am so thankful that no charges were pressed and it didn't go on my record. Everyone who is thinking about sexting or has someone asking for pictures, think twice becuase I don't want anyone to have to go through what I did.
p.s. Does anyone have any idea's of what I can do to support no sexting??
support girls loving themselves more than selling themselves short.. i dont think that yur issue is unimportant at all.. girls especially need to love themselves more and stop selling theemselves out for boys attention..
no offense, but you were thirteen.
no one should want to see a picture of a naked thirteen year old.
That's just wrong.
There's nothing wrong with sexting, but at least wait until you're old enough to deal with the consequences.
Thirteen....that makes me sick.
No offense. I blame him, not you. Just don't fall victim to that kind of stuff.
Well you cant make no one from stoping from having sex the only you could do tell the about absentence and condoms. HIV can be prevented.STOP the spreading it.
Peace.Love.Happiness.
my x boyfriend john sent me a dirt photo and i deleted it so fast. it was really gross. But i mean sextexting is wronng i meaan girls and boys who can just put them out there like that is bad.
you should watch degrassi. the same thing happens to manny but its caught on video and her parents kick her out.
That must be really scary
get a group of friends together or make a ebsite and tell ppl about it im tryin to do the same thing actually
that's horrible.
for one, if a guy tries to have sex with you and you only been dating him for a month, totally kick him to the curb- that means he just wanted sex all along.
for 2, maybe the police should've considered your feelings as a person since it was your picture that everyone seen. that should be put in the same category with Rape Victims. I know a few girls at my school who got their lives ruined by sexting.
(and its bad cause the guys who are involved normally don't seem to care that it happens- in fact normally they seem to get popular afterwards )
Its funny how they invented camera phones for one thing, but in the end more sickos are using them to harm instead of help.
Hope you feel better hon, and if you don't- go get the girls on the school soccer team to give that jerk a good smash in the groin. lol
im a girl but i dont think that i would ever be comfortable selling myself to some guy i barely know...come on gurls get a wake up call ur better then that ur beautiful and amazing no matter what and dont you ever forget it...
Actually there is a new episode of degrassi where this girl named ali does that for this kid named jonny. I totally don't blame u. I can see u just wanted him to leave u alone. No one has the right to call u a whore and ur friends should have been there to help u through it not judge u, people make mistakes but u learned from it and u know now not to do it again. Ur not the only one who's been through this and i'm sure ur not the last but girls should really learn how to respect their body instead of letting guys pressure them. I learned that the hard way i use to let my ex do things to me and then i found out when i dumped him that he cheated on me, i felt like such a slut. I learned from those mistakes though and will never let it happen again. If u ever need to talk i'm here to listen. xoxo_ gigglyheart01850
Your issue is very important, i used to be in a similar situation and like you i gave in and i know how you feel when you say that you regret it. I don't blame you in any way shape or form. When you are under that much pressure it is hard not to give in. I'm very proud that you can stand up, tell your story, and take a stand against it all. kudos to you!
thats terrible the fact that a guy would put you under that kind of pressure. i think sexting isnt a good thing and it is something that needs to be taken care of because these days you go on myspace and facebook and get friend requests you dont know and then you give out numbers and for all you know you could be texting a rapest. so this sexting thing needs to stop.
That's so sick. I can't believe anyone could be so perverted to an innocent thirteen year old. My rule is that if anyone is pressuring me. I YELP. YELL at them. EXIT the room. LOOK at my situation and PLAN what I should do, tell my parents or a responsible adult. I feel for you. And you are not alone. You will never make the same mistake again. GOD BLESS YOU.
the best thing any girl can do for herself is to respect herself and body. It's the only one you have so take care of it
Glad to hear you are looking to teach others about this lesson you learned.
At... http://www.dosomething.org/actnow/actionguide/start-awareness-campaign-a...
...Do Something has outlined how you can learn how to start an awareness campaign.
my bf would never tell me 2 do that he is so nice
I'm really, really sorry. That must have been a horrible experience! My theory is, never take a picture/send a text that you wouldn't want broadcasted. Because once you put it out there, it can be EVERYWHERE.
i love my boyfriend and he has seen me naked so why not sextext theres no harm in it..
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PS:SEXTING IS WRONG
yeah sexting is wrong because you never know who will see the message and thne what happens when it gets into the wrong hands
and what happens when one of his friends get a hold to his phone and see the picture you sent him then what?
I'm thirteen and I don't know how you got yourself into such a situation. U made a mistake, its understandalbe. Teenages make mistakes. Some have bigger consequences then others but hopefully uou have learned from this mistake. Its in the past, all you can do is make yourself a better future. Learn from it and move on.
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first of all, i'm soo sorry that he pressured you and you had to go through all that.
second of all, to you out there who are saying sexting is fine, it's not. it's one thing to be naked in person, it's another to send around a photo, because you never know, stuff happens, and that could end super badly.
third of all, this is one way to help stop girls from sexting, and you could start a campaign to help. you could start an organization that would educate girls on the dangers of sexting, and help them be strong if they're pressured by a boyfriend, and help keep their self-confidence up because I think that's a big problem that helps lead to girls giving in to the pressure of sexting.
fourth, thank you for sharing, because you're helping stop others from having the same thing happen to them
you're beautiiful no matter what they say
i'll b ur sunshine on a cold and rainy day
and it doesn't matter wat the people have 2 say
cuz u r beautiful.....
this is a peice of a song i wrote n it's really pretty...jus sum to help u out there gurlie
This is a really important topic for teens to fully understand.
Check out this video produced by Chicago youth:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZdJyQmmiPgE
Note: all stories expressed are fictional and do not reflect the experiences of the student actors.
Well I don't think anyone should be "sexting." Obviously, the person you send the pictures to isn't going to keep it a secret no matter how much they say and promise that they won't. So someone is going to find out. And at school word travels fast and people will find out. Now, whether a teacher or parents find out could be different. But if anyone asks you to send pictures then before you do it you should think about how everyone could find out and even how the police could be involved. You never know!
Now, I don't know your boyfriend but just remember that not everyone is who they seem to be. So if he ever did ask you remember this story and think of all of the consquences.
Your issue is definitely important!!! Sexting happens at my school too and it's hurt and embarrassed so many girls. Girls need to be aware of the consequences of sending those pictures. Maybe you could start a website or club to spread awareness. Yes, its kinda an embarrassing subject, but if it stays taboo then nothing will change.
First of all, you're thirteen. Why the hell are you sending any pictures to anybody? If your boyfriend was pressuring you to do something you didn't feel comfortable with, you should have talked to him about it. And if he still didn't stop, then you should have broken up with him. Second of all, it's kind of common sense, that once you send someone something, whether its on the phone or on the internet, there's the possibility of everybody seeing it.
There is nothing wrong with "sexting" if it's between people who are old enough and mature enough to understand what they're doing and are completely consenting to it. You didn't seem like you were doing it willingly. But then again, nobody was forcing you to do this. You made that decision, so now you live with the consequences. Let that be a lesson to you.
I'm not saying this is your fault. This has to do with both of you. Your boyfriend shouldn't have been a pervert. And you should have had enough respect for yourself to stand up for yourself and realize what might happen if you send that picture.
And it's obvious that neither him nor your friend have any respect for you.
first therex nothin' wrong wit sexting . ive done it wit sum ppl . me n my new bf do it bt he knows not 2 fwd den kus he knows i'll kick his ass . see wat u did wrong wuz u let him pressure u if u dont wanna do it dont . just kus he wanted a pic of her naked it doesnt mean he's a pervert . THERES NOTHIN WRONG WIT SEXTING IF U CAN DEAL WIT DA CONQUENCES .
first therex nothin' wrong wit sexting . ive done it wit sum ppl . me n my new bf do it bt he knows not 2 fwd den kus he knows i'll kick his ass . see wat u did wrong wuz u let him pressure u if u dont wanna do it dont . just kus he wanted a pic of her naked it doesnt mean he's a pervert . THERES NOTHIN WRONG WIT SEXTING IF U CAN DEAL WIT DA CONQUENCES .
first therex nothin' wrong wit sexting . ive done it wit sum ppl . me n my new bf do it bt he knows not 2 fwd den kus he knows i'll kick his ass . see wat u did wrong wuz u let him pressure u if u dont wanna do it dont . just kus he wanted a pic of her naked it doesnt mean he's a pervert . THERES NOTHIN WRONG WIT SEXTING IF U CAN DEAL WIT DA CONQUENCES .
i agree w destiny.m...wat ppl dnt understand bout sexting is most of the time it gets sent to everyone...you may think "o my boyfriend loves me and he'll never send it to anyone" bt he will...he will show it to all his friends so he can brag.. i personally think sexting is wrong..its your choice bt i dont think sexting is a smart choice.
i think that if you have the guts to do it make sure you make em look good lol and a lil advice dont take a picture of ur face makes them unanimous but hunn dont fall victim to a guy sweetie yhu victimized urslf by falling for the game enjoy your body but dont get mad if others end up enjoying it too because of your mistake if it were me id celebrated the fact that hey i looked that good to take a picture and get seen and yeah 13 is a lil yung but you;ll never learn about life unless you go thru certain experiences
i agree !!
I have to disagree.. I think sexting is wrong at any age is wrong. Why violate your body and risk falling victim to the consequences, at any age? Just my thoughts.
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Sexting should be prevented because you never know who can see your photos... You don't want the wrong person such as someone who may be in charge of hiring you for a job or the person who is in charge of admissions of a college to see you nude and exposed. And if those aren't bad enough, what if your older brother or even your father were to see these pictures, so ladies be careful by what you send.
Im just saying - you probably should have ended it when he asked you for the pictures. People like that should feel really ashamed for asking things like that. Sexting is really big, and wrong.
There was this one girl, about 18 years old and very beautiful. Her boyfriend asked for nude pictures and she sent them to him. What he did was cruel, he sent the pictures to EVERYONE in the school. In the end she commited suicide because of all the mean hateful, words people said.
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The Moon rises.
That kid of relates to me. I was 12 when that happen. My so called bestfriend told everyone about what me and my boyfriend did. i don't send pictures I take them with my phone then blue tooth them. I'm sorry this happen to you. I support what you're tying to do 100%
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This helps a lot.. the other day I had this stuck in my head actually. Can we see the some more of the song (i cant sing so i wouldn't use it or anything.)