The N word
Submitted by Aussychick14 on Sun, 04/19/2009 - 17:28
So at my school EVERYBODY uses the N word. That's something that really bothers me. I use to say it all the time but i decided that it was stupid of me. I am black and i realized that when i tried to tell someone that they shouldn't say it, they would say "If you say it then i can say it". So i stopped saying it hopping that more and more people would stop too. But unfortunately no one has. It's really starting to get annoying because people just say it to say it. It's not like there saying it to hurt others, it's just become an everyday word. My question is how would some of you tell someone not to say it?
Everyone in my school says it. Well, when I use to go to school. I don't get offended at all, because its something that you're use to hearing. I don't say it. It doesn't sound right hearing me say it.
They had a ban saying that if they hear anyone saying the n word that they would get fined. But I don't think banning the word worked out.
As a black guy, I know the feeling. The "n word", as diverse as its use has become, is still filled with an incredibly negative connotation. I hate when people use it, black or any other color. As for trying to get people to stop, well, that'll be tough. The only thing you can really dry is to educate them on the history of the word and show how demeaning it is to use it.
In my school people say it all the time and I agree it does get annoying. Just like when people use the word Gay to mean stupid or dumb or when they call others a fag. I take this deeply into offense because I am bi-sexual so the impact of this word is the same as using the N word. Its wrong and people need to learn to stop being so dumb and think before they say anything.That's what's wrong with people these days they don't think. People don't realize what they are saying until it affects someone so bad.I try to tell people to stop but they don't listen alot of the time and they look at me weird for standing up in what I believe is right. I don't use any of these words and I don't think they should be used in such a demeaning manner.
Words are words, as a Jew i myslef have had racial slurs thrown my way, but as a good human being and a child of G-D as all mankind is i wished them well and hope that they change their ways lest someone far more violant than myslef should take up arms against. more over as a patriot i will sooner defend some ones right to say as the will weither it be "Nigger" or "faggot" or one that hits close to home "Dirty Sheni Jew f@*%" because as americans as people of the world we have the right to say waht we want inorder to experss ourselves if not this site just could be possible.
Some people use it in my school. One day a guy called another guy which was my friend's friend the "N" word and I was going to turn around and tell him off but my other friend stopped me. People grow with it because they think they're so cool because they say the "N" word, but they truly don't know that they're people who are really hurt by it. I've heard the word and thought it sounded cool, a few years ago, but then I saw people get hurt emotionally so I never said it again. I've not been saying the "N" word for about five years now.
I use the N-word all the time w/o thinking about it...I feel or felt that it is ok if I say it because I am black...I would get annoyed when other ppl would say it...I tried 2 stop saying the word but I am so use 2 saying it...I know the word is bad but I don't believe you can ever really get people 2 stop saying it...you can incourage ppl 2 stop saying it but I feel that it is a word that will never go away...
I Hate that people say it, I Believe if you are black you have a right , but white people do Not!...its not a good word no matter what, but for people to say if you can then so can i, is Pretty stupid!, ecspeacially if their white or any other race that isnt Black..Because that's Totally different..people are stupid!..i don't like the word and i have never used it in my life..and i also hate that people say it.
Its very disrespectful!.
I would give the orgin of the word, what it means and how it is used. Maybe if ppl saw it as an insult they wouldnt want to b called that or wouldnt want to call someone else that
I would give the orgin of the word, what it means and how it is used. Maybe if ppl saw it as an insult they wouldnt want to b called that or wouldnt want to call someone else that
I'm white, and some people at my school use the "n word." I always tell them, whoever they are, how demeaning and bad it is to use a word like that.
You know your bringing up a whole bunch of segregation here. If we start separating words so only select races can use them, then we are just going back to times where there were separate water fountains, bathrooms etc. If one race can use a word than all races can.
My comment was directed at kelly1826.
I never ever say it. That word has never left my mouth. I'm black and find it incredibly offensive and its never justified. I always tell my friends not to say it but I've never gotten through to them
A lot of people at my school say that word alot, but majority of them are African americans who would use it. I do find it irritating.. either you are a black american or not, you still can't use that word at all. We have to sought it out equally. I DO NOT think black americans should use the 'N' word. Just because of what they are, doesn't mean they can use it. It's pathetic. It is disrespectful in many ways. Think about it, when you see two african americans calling each other the 'N' word, what would you think? Honestly, would you think that it'd be okay to use the 'N' word just because the two black african americans are using it? ABSOLUTELY. Therefore, you would probably start saying the word and offend people. I just don't think anyone should use that word, period.
I am white and I have strong feelings about the N-word. When it comes to the N-word its only ok for blacks to say it. Y? It bothers me because I dont want to say it but if it bothers them that I say why not them.
I have been in trouble at school for using the word when a black guy called the a cracker. In the south (where I am) the cracker was the slave driver who got his name for the sound of the whip. When a guy called me a cracker I told him that If he wanted to call me that I could say the N-word.
I got into alot of trouble but in the end I won the case in the school office. I just cant stand things like that. That is why I spoke out.
In my opinion most people use the N word when they want to say something is bad. Ultimately I think the people who continue using the word have to decide to stop using it on there own. If your really want to do something then raise awareness of the word. Make a presentation for your school tell them were the word came from, how it was used. If your passionate about it then don't give up.
we live in an area of the country that is notoriously racist and has very few black residents, if any. yesterday my husband and i went to a relative's house to watch football. during the course of the afternoon, one of the guests repeatedly used the n word to refer to the football players. after about a handful of times, i finally said something. i was so uncomfortable and offended that shortly after that we left. on the way home, my husband argued with me that i should have not said anything, that nothing that i said would change their minds, and that i was being judgemental. what the hell? i'm glad i said something. it's ridiculous to me that people still think like this.
Hey! Thanks to everyone who responded. And to frankenwendy, it's good that you said something. No matter what people may say or think, the N word is wrong. Racism should be in the past and so should that word.
I'm black & I admit I do use the word "nigga" it means ignorant. If I call someone "nigga" it's because they are ignorant therefore I will call you as you act. I will call a black, white, yellow, purple, polka-dotted, & striped person "nigga" if this person want to be ignorant.
It really urks me when black people say the word, but they get mad when other people say it. If you don't want them to say it, then why are you saying it. You're basically just encouraging it, so its really your fault. So its no point for you to get mad and wanna fight people for saying it. Whether if you're black or white, nobody should really say the N word. But people are, and you can't control what people say.
I hate The N word. I get offended by it even though Im white. I never use that word, and I never will. I think others should see the world like I see it. I would ask anyone what color I am. They would probably say white. But honestly I'm not. Today I'm sky blue. I don't see the world in "Black and White" like others see. I look at people and see their true colors. Whatever mood you're in, thats the color reflecting off of you. I hear people talk and the things they say makes me angry..."You talk black, you dance black." Whats your point?? I don't label dancing, I don't label anything. I never judge before I get to know someone. I get along with everyone. You know how people have certain groups and labels? Well, I don't think anyone would be able to label me because I have friends that are in different social groups, and I love all my friends. I wish this world would be like a utopia, so perfect, no one judging, everyone equal...But humans don't want to be equal. They only want to be on top of the pyramid. I'm trying to get this point across to everyone. I feel like this is why I'm here today, to make a difference. If I could make a difference and have someone see the world and people the way I see them, I would be so happy.
i dont like it either...there always somebody that i am around and they use i hate even though i am white to
Everytime you hear that word said,you look those people square in the eyes and let them know that the word offense you. They may continue to use it, but if you keep on letting them know, then MOST people will not say it around you. Good luck!
~Be selfless,not selfish~
my peers unfortunatly use it often too,including my best friend. i have said it before,when with this best friend,and it was incredibly stupid of me and it no longer leaves my mouthh. i am white, my best friend is puertorican and black and my aunt is black. i hate how in all the songs these days its just throw around by the rappers like its no big deal,when it really is..
I have friends...I live in a neighborhood...and go to school...and everywhere I go SOMEBODY uses that word. When I was younger,still retaining the same characteristics and upbringing I have now, I though it to be offensive. I knew better,and that the word was used to identify African Americans negatively...and if my brother of any one of his friends would say it then I'd say something. But when I hit school and I heard the word, all I would do is this think of them as another person in my neighborhood...I knew better than to say anything!!!
But as I got older and grew to be more of an advocate for my own beliefs I began to speak up. My father and family talk all the time about the same exact thing: how a black person can say it but no other race dare or suddenly there's a fight. Once, now that my bro's in college and thinks he's so cool,he used it once and I said "You should't say that word,". He answers "Why?", and I told him because the word was originated to be offensive against African Americans, but he testified that he uses it because of that exactly: to show that we were called that and that we've come far enough to use that word towards each other. But I find that completely illogical. So keep in mind that the use of the word depends on why,some people use it simply because they hear it,others for the reason of my brother. Either way, what YOU need to do first is see WHY,then find a way to prove your point to them, after that continue to reinforce the fact that you don't like it starting with you friends-if they care about you they'll stop or try to stop-every time you hear it SAY SOMETHING!!!! It works for me TRY IT. Most of my friends don't really curse around me anymore JUST BECAUSE I SPOKE UP AND KEPT SPEAKING UP!!!!!
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I think the use of the N word, or any other curse word is distatsteful. There are so many other words that can be used.
However, I don't think the N word is worse than any other curse word out there. It's just like calling someone the B word. All curse words are offensive in some way: that's why people use them, and that's why they are curse words.
And even though I hate the use of "bad words" myself, and do not use them, I never tell people not to use any sort of curse word, just because it is not my place and defies freedom of speech.
Mr. Spazz_Tastic
I colmpletely understand this. In my school they use the "N word" term also. I have been called the N word in random places--the mall, school hallway--so i take offense to it. Also, the "I say it, You can Too" theory is completley illogical. No matter who uses it, whether African American, White, Hispanic, etc I think of it as a belittling. As a black male, i refuse to say the word, yet i have, in a hallway episode this guy "attempted" to call me the n word, & things got heated quick. I ended up doing the right thing and telling my Principle, and he ended up going to In School Suspension. The person was white, but the same incident happened with a black classmate of mine. He didn't get the same punishment. Isn't that wrong? The point is that using it is bad on many levels. I choose not to use it because i refuse to be a statistic
I've heard people at my school use the N word, and it is aggravating for me because of how demeaning that word is. To be honest, to hear people using the N word is as painful to me as people saying "chink" or "chinky", which is hurtful to me because I am Chinese. I believe that people that use racial slurs like those are ignorant of how demeaning and hurtful those words are, and if we inform them about it, they might stop.
I never use it because:
- im not black
- it offends people
where i went to school there were only 8 blacks in my grade... and i never ever heard that word thrown around by my classmates. maybe out of school but i didnt hang out with ppl like that. my friend's father used that a lot, but then again he had an offensive name for anyone of any skin color, country, or religion. so he was just obsessively prejudice. i think it was his life's hobby to hate everyone? i recently found another friend that had moved to nyc when she was a kid... and her father throws the term around so much it makes me uncomfortable (he also uses other terms for other groups of ppl too). ironically her and her father claim not to be prejudice (and have friends of various origins, black, latino and such) but they throw it around whenever they talk about someone that annoys them. im white but find it very uncomfortable for ppl to use even if there arent any black ppl in the room. i just think it's wrong.