WHY SEX NOW????
Submitted by Tweety2000 on Mon, 09/22/2008 - 23:38
Please explain, because i am dieing to know, why do teenagers have sex before marriage. Everyone should at least know that you have to wait until you are married to have sex, but still many people are not listening and having sex at a young age. Why in the world??? Why can't people wait??? Why sex now???
i was one of those people who wanted to wait till marriage to have sex. I wish i did.. im 16 years old and i might be pregant and im freaking out. my new boyfriend pressured me into it. Now im regreating it more than ever. Dont have sex till ur married or ready to have a child.
ok ihopenot...i dont know what went wrong with your sexual encounter but for one whyd you let him pressure you!! thats where you first went wrong and did you use protection?
Because they love each other a lot and either can't get married because of laws (same-sex marriages), or they just don't want too. Sex before marriage isn't bad, and people shouldn't be forced into it. In my opinion, its a form of rape and should be treated as such.
Because teenagers have rushing hormones, and can't wait to brag!
Because our country is all about feeling good looking good, so that all kids think about now days. Advertising for that kind of stuff is everywhere, it's almost impossible to go through the day without seeing or hearing about that stuff. Teenagers are just like the teenagers back in the day's, the difference now is how much they are exposed to everything.
Ya i know many high schoolers who have babies because of their want for attention
I partially agree with the whole thing about "teens have sex for attention" &* that teenage guys feel that they have to have sex in order to seem "cool" or whatever,but I also disagree because there are some couples in highschool who have been together for a long time &* who have sex against their parent's wishes because they feel that they are going to get married anyway,so why wait?.I feel that not all teens who get pregnant are necessarily "sluts" or "whores" because I am a teen mom to be &* I have been with the baby's daddy for over a year now.I talked to my parents about birth control,but instead of taking action,they sat there &* argued about it for hours,blaming each other for my decision to have sex.They are also divorced so it made things a lot more dramatic.I know that i shoudld have used a condom but I had also wanted to get pregnant for awhile so we didnt try to prevent it &* by the time I was convinced that it wasn't right,I was already pregnant.I don't regret getting pregnant becase I am bringin a life into this world,just like every other mother,I'm just doing it a little earlier in life.I am still in school &* I plan on going to college.I also have a very supportive family.
Why should teens wait?
A fair question I believe. Being a teen myself, I see no reason to bar teens from having safe and protected sex. Teens, just as adults, can inform themselves and are given ample opportunities to be educated in our school system, as well as easy and free ways to procure condoms and birth control.
It seems to me, from the wording, that your making the question into a "marriage" situation. Sex has nothing to do with being married or not, as many adults are not married and have sex when single.
As for the age issue, I believe that teens can be just as educated as adults on protection and birth control, why is it just a problem for teens to have sex?
Okay....I'm still a virgin im 16 years old but I almost made the mistake of having sex one nite with my boyfriend. But I stopped myself and really thought about what I was about to do. I vauled myself to wait to have sex untill I married. Which has been dicussed with my current boyfriend and he says he is ready whenever I am....and i'm really thankful for him. But yeah I think teen's have sex because it's always displayed and made seem right by celebs/ and older people. I mean I think that's why from my point of view.
Some teens dont think before they act. they only go over the positive things, not the negative things of doin IT. I believe in sex after marriage too. I know this 17 year old girl who is pregnant with her 18 year old boyfriends baby. they're both proud and what they don't realize is how hard it is to raise a baby ( the only reason i know how hard it is to raise a baby is because my nephew is a very hyper). So now they both have to quit school and raise a baby. (she is in her junior year of high school and he's a senior in hish school). And either way if she has an abortion or not she will still be looked down for getting pregnant in the first place and for killing an innocent baby.
i think that if someone is ready to have sex then that is thier decision.I also understand how hard it is to be a teen parent.Alot of the women in my family got pregnant while in thier teens.My sister is 21 and on her 3rd kid.Her mistake though was she didnt really know the guy very well when she got pregnant.They got maried after about 5 or 6 months.I think that if your ready to have sex then thats totally your decision.I just think that if your going to have sex before marriage it should be with someone your truly care about, with protection, and know that your not going to regret it in the end.Ive known my boyfriend for a while and we have been together almost a year.He is probably the closest person to me ever.I know i wouldnt regret anything because i always want him in my life.The main point is sex is a personal decision not anyone elses.
I think u all have some good points.
Here is the thing, some teenagers are a lot smarter than adults give them credit for. I feel I am one of them, I am 16 years old now, I am sexually active, and in a commited relationship. The thing is there are two ways to go about it; Protection or not. I tried talking to my parents about it, explaining how maybe it's not a bad idea to put me on birth control, what did they do? Argued with me, so I made up a lame excuse for giving me my health card to hold and did it myself. There's also the unsafe way to do this, you can not use protection and not be on birth control but then you're just asking to get pregnant and you're looking for trouble. I feel that teens these days are much more educated on the topic of sex than most adults give us credit for and we need to let them know it's our lives and if we're not being pressured then why is it a bad thing? Sex is a way to show someone you're commited to that you really care about them and love them with your whole heart and are willing to give everything to them. Why is this wrong? I personally don't see the issue, I understand it's not religion, but sometimes things change, and not that many people are strict to religious traditions, especially teens.
Live to dream.
You. Don't. Have. To. Wait.
I have NEVER had any type of sex whatsoever(I'm 14- not that it matters) and I do not have a problem with those who do have sex before they are married. What is there to listen to? You are in control of your own body. If you want to have sex then have sex. You can't be forced not to! Just, don't do it for the wrong reasons. Sex is a natural thing. If the person is ready then they should be able to have sex without being shamed about it. I understand that there are STDs and teen pregnancies, but that is not every case. If someone is 40 and they are not married, are you going to tell them that they are not allowed to have sex? Ha!
Sex before marriage is strictly a religious thing. Pre-marital sex is not a bad thing. Should you wait until the time is perfectly right and have sex with the only person you know you'll be with till marriage? yes, but don't let religion control you or your sex life.
I would hope you aren't sexually active. you're only 14! Thats illegal and wrong.
Well, it's not illegal if I had sex with something my age. It's nothing to worry about it because it's not likely.
Yeah it is. Its called consent laws. Both you and your partner would get statutory charges for being under the consent age, it wouldn't matter if you are both 14.
14 is not under the age for consent. In some cases its 12 years of age.
Actually consent age is 16 years of age. Any age below that is statutory rape. Not matter if you are both the same age.
Live to dream.
I lost my virginity at 15. I don't regret it but I think I may later on in life. It was a relationship that only lasted two weeks so I feel like I gave it away to someone who didn't love me. I don't think there should be an age limit on sex... but teens should really make sure that thats what they both want to do.
i had sex at the age of 15, but you have to make sure you have protected sex if your going to do it. sex is more of an adult step and you shouldnt be forced or pressured into doing anything that your not ready for. practicing safe sex is the best thing to do and pregnancy i was always scared about to cause even with protection something can go wrong. if your going to have sex at a young age it shouldnt be past a certain amount of time in the relationship. which is when your ready
I have not had sex but i agree with babymam17
becaue she i very happy with the life stayle she has made. And with her family supporting her well her life will go smooth
I love the fact that u r not ashamed of haveing a baby at a young age and not ashamed of saying that u have a baby so young. But i have just 1 question how did u know that u where ready
me personally being a girl have chose not to have sez before marriage. i dont understand y girs have sex with guys that mite leave them. ur husbands there foreveer. plus when ur married wouldnt that be cool to say ur the only on i had sex with and will have sex with
My ex-boyfriend tried to pressure me into having sex but I stayed strong. For anyone out there being pressured, stay true to yourself and if this guy is trying to make you do something you don't want to then he's not the right guy for you. If you are in a serious relationship and you are older like 17 or 18 and think this person is the one you are going to spend the rest of your life with, then that is a different story. If you are edcuated correctly and use proper protection and you and the other person are commited to each other then sex isn't necessarily a bad thing. Just make sure you use protection because you don't want to get pregant and miss out on some great times, such as college, you couldn't have with a child. Also make sure you and the other person are serious about eachother becuase this is a very serious decision. but i have made the decision of not having sex before marriage.
dont listen to boys ppl !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i wanted to wait... but omg
i had sex and it was awasome
i wouldnt take it back
to ashlee92... i totally agree! it was awesome for me too and i regret nothing! but i was with someone i love and i knew i was ready. i am educated about the advantages and disadvantages of having sex before marriage. and since i've been educated, my chances of becoming pregnant have been cut down by 10,000 times compared to some girls that do not use any type of contraception. i appericiate the education i received and would not take my experience back for the world!
Honestly, in my opinion I think Teens should wait. I am a teenager. I have waited. Why have sex at a young age???? Most teens are not emotionally ready for what may happen. Like some teens become jealous and start being posessive and they get to attach. But some teen are different. You should wait until you know for sure you are ready. Don't let anyone pessure you. Just stand up and say NO... It doesn't matter what other people think of you. Only two people in this world cam judge you and that is GOD and Yourself......
All teens should wait. even adults should wait although harder. but i think u should wait for marriage tht way u choose the right person to give ur virginity to. i've always seen it a little romantic when its ur honey moon night and u kno tht you have been waiting and u get to give it to the right person so u also get to make a family together. thts my idea im 16 and almost ever1 at my school is sexually active. in the past 3 yr i dont kno how many pregnent there have been. idk its my opinion u can either accept or reject.
Im 18 years old. true not quite an adult but still this should be heard. having sex is not a crime. its about what you believe and if your emotionally ready for it. i was when i had sex, though it made the brake up hard. know what your getting into first, use protection, be smart. even if a guy ends up getting you in bed cause he convinces you its cool or ok use protection. so that if something does happen be the one to say "yeah, we used protection, cause were smart and safe even though we made this choice".
Now im in a perfectly stable relationship, we have sex but its not the first thing that pops into our mind every time we hang out. it is possible to have a functioning relationship and be sexual. like everything else though its up to everyone and everyone has a different opinion.
i agree with Just_Chillin10, its if your ready or not. if you not stand up for what you believe in and say NO. if you are ready, dont pressure your partner into it. and if your both ready be safe and use protection, and think of every thing that will happen after you do.
Sex is sacred. A gift from God for married couples. He created Adam and Eve differently to give each other companionship and pleasure. God never wanted people to have one night stands and sex before their time. Consider the fact that you wouldn't want to eat an apple that someone, or worse, several, people have already bitten. It's the same way with sex. It's supposed to be special and unused so that you can enjoy the long awaited moment with your spouse. Virginity until marriage is the way to go.
i agree with you simplicity. it should wait you bring up good points, but for those tht aren't christians and dont agree do you real want to rely on condoms and pills for protections. because always remember CONDOMS FAIL WAITING DON'T.
I'm one of those "HORRIBLE" people that,yes,have had sex before marriage.!It is not something there is a reason for.People get pressured and people sometimes just choose to do it.I'm not going to blame it on TV or society because that has nothing to do with it.I grew up fast and I wish I could take it back,but I know I can't so I just deal with it.People that have sex before marriage aren't necessarily bad people.They make their own choices and even if God says it's wrong,it's something that happens and I don't think it's something people should be punished for.
--Alexis Nicole--
I agree with spookyalexis. It's not necessarily a BAD thing, it's just something that most don't wait until marriage to go into. I mean I have no room to talk seeing as though I'm still in my early teens, but honestly, I don't have a problem with the idea of 'before marriage sex'. Because it can be based on multiple factors, religion even coming into the mix. It's not bad, just frowned upon. My lowly advice, wait until you're 100% sure.
Im a teen mom and I agree with I bleed ink im very much frowned upon for not bein married with 2 children am only 18 SEX...its worth waiting for and it comes with a lot of consequinces
Im a teen mom and I agree with I bleed ink im very much frowned upon for not bein married with 2 children I am only 18...SEX...its worth waiting and it comes with a lot of consequinces
I'm going to have to say that I don't think marriage and sex should go together hand in hand. Marriage can mean everything or it can mean nothing, the same as sex. However, sex can be sex or sex can be making love. Two different things. I think sex as sex, the cold hard, love-absent, sex before marriage is not good. It's forced and if you aren't ready to be passionate or love each other, you're not ready to get married. That's bad sex before marriage. Good sex before marriage is actually having it because you love the other person and you want to connect in a special way. Then I think it's ok, especially because some people, like same-sex couples, aren't legally allowed to marry in some areas. I think people need to be able to have a relationship without sex before they can have a relationship with sex. And I think the longer you wait, the better.
It is not law that you need to wait to have sex. It is implemented by religion. (As are so many other things that I could quote that should not and are not followed.)
You do NOT have to be married. There are people who are addicted to sexual intercourse, who do find the pleasure in it, and who do not follow religions.
Sex is sex. It is natural.
Actually, if you WANT to get into it:
In Ancient Rome, before Christianity took its hand, sex was a very common thing to do, and no one believed they were "going to hell" for it. It was very common for someone to be partaking, even publicly, in intercourse, and a woman walking around nude was allowed and not frowned upon. Wikipedia it if you please. Homosexuality also was not frowned upon. In fact, many ancient leaders were homosexual.
Well, lots of people do it for the fun or just to say that they've had sex with a lot of people. I don't think everyone should have to wait until marriage but I think that people should quit having sex for fun. Sex is a big thing and usually the people who are doing it for the wrong reasons end up being pregnant..etc. And teenage pregnancy seems to be very common now a days!
Too funny but way too true!
Well it depends. Some just get swept up in the thrill of the moment and before they know it, they're having sex.
In other cases, it's just to have sex. To experiment and find out what it's like.
Others are pressured into it. Sometimes, in the worst-case scenarios, blackmailed. (trust me, I've seen it)
It is someone's choice whether or not to have sex. It isn't illegal, it's just immoral to many people. I'm all for abstinence but there have been times where I want to "go farther" with my boyfriend (though I never have). I can understand why some people do it. If you don't do it, that's great. But don't judge others just because of their choices.
Personally, I feel that one shouldn't have sex until they're READY. Whether that's when they get married, or when they're in love. It's a personal choice, but I just think that it should be experienced with someone that you care for and who you know cares for you. And it should be experienced when you're ready to experience it, not before. And if you don't want children to come of it, use contraceptives!
The orginal poster your situation is unfortunate but I don't think waiting is for everyone. There are plenty of teens who have sex safely and they are just fine.
I couldnt agree with this more. Waiting until marriage isn't for everyone, heck, some people don't even get married. I feel like as long as you are smart, safe, and mature about it there is not a right or wrong age to have sex. I wouldnt make a generalization about an entire age group by a cluster of reckless teens.
teens have sex now because their is pressure from boys and people around you me personally am still a virgin but others around me are not and i am constintly asked why i am still a virgin and i answer by sayin im waitin until i feel i am ready and i dont want to lose it to just any random guy. I think teens have sex because of temptation some girls just want attention from boys also there is this sayin its like nike just do it
I don't understand why teen sex is such a big debate. If there is a well educated 16 year old that was in a committed relationship I don't understand why she should be criticized for having sex. Personally I lost my virginity when I was 17. I don't regret it at all. I guess I could consider myself lucky to still be with that guy over a year later. My thing is as long as you practice safe sex to avoid babies and STDs I see no problem.
Obviously, we do not live in a perfect world and not everyone shares the same belief system as yourself. ith that being said, you cannot all teenagers to not give in to having sexual affairs with others. It is simply an urge some give in to and others do not. As long as they are educated and understand the magnitude of the act, then the ones who give in will be protected and the ones who will not will be fine.
The real question you should be asking is not "Why not wait until you are married" it should be "Why not wait until you are ready?"
Sex is not bad, dirty or a sin, when you have sex by choice and when you are ready to, it is beautiful, fun, feels great, hurts (in a good way), spontaneous, planned, safe, dangerous and can very well be an adventure into getting to know yourself or someone else better (or all or non of the above all at once)! BUT you should wait until you are ready. If you are afraid, questioning if you should be doing it or uneasy, then wait. Loosing your virginity should not be scary, it should be magical.