People might think of dating abuse involving a man harming a woman, but it's also a problem in the LGBTQ community. Up to 1 in 3 same-sex relationships are abusive. However, despite the high rates of abuse in the young LGBTQ relationships, the problem is rarely reported.
Some people think that same-sex couples can’t be abusive because their relationships are more “equal” than heterosexual ones. Many assume a man can defend himself against another man, and a woman can defend herself against another woman. Also, some believe that a woman is too passive to abuse another woman.
Many LGBTQ youth incorrectly believe that no one will help them because they are gay or that the law only protects people in straight relationships—these are roadblocks that prevent young LGBTQ individuals from getting the help they need to get out.
LGBTQ young people often feel isolated when they see signs of homophobia (fear and discrimination of LGBTQ people) in their family, friends, and school administrators. A relationship, even an abusive one, can get rid of these feelings, if only for a short time.
Additionally, people in same-sex relationships often feel like they won't be taken seriously if they report it.
Lastly, domestic violence shelters are mainly for women, leaving men with fewer places to turn. Since shelters are open to all women, a lesbian victim may be afraid that her abuser will gain access to the shelter that she is in.
